Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.”
― Dan Brown
Human nature is such that we all tend to make judgements about others quicker than necessary, as if to conserve energy that our mind consumes during the process of contemplating the ups and downs of a given scenario/person/thing. One moment you’d be staring at someone that caught your attention, the next, you’d be passing on a verdict on said person’s personality and character, as if you were the mere soul of right, wrong and psychology.
How does our brain convince us, that by doing that glorious act, we can somehow go on to our next subject and within our minds be comforted by the fact that we know and feel them, when you’re actually just two strangers across from each other?
You might even question on the principles of such behaviour, and maybe even try to talk yourself into it by saying that this is one way of protecting yourself from everyone and how everyone’s faces are strewn with the script of their past in such awe-infusing clarity that you both might as well just look at each other and know what lies within. In many cases this actually does happen, and there’s nothing wrong with defending yourself. But doing it at the cost of a human who you’re judging without even knowing him completely? Honestly, I don’t see a blossoming friendship in such individuals unless one of them is a pure saint – which is hardly ever the case.
Then again, we also know that humans are just slightly modified versions of animals (we share 98% of our DNA with chimpanzees), some more than others. And as I’ve said earlier that all animal (and the majority of humans) are driven with one common thought: pain and pleasure. Thus, how to avoid pain and gain pleasure.
It would be highly unjust to underestimate, and look down upon, this beautiful tool that animals (and humans) use as a measuring stick to estimate if the chances of pain are more probable than pleasure, and vice versa. In fact, it’s an amazing creation by which we learn much more than what we consciously realise.
The act of judging a fellow human being the instant you lay eyes upon him/her is very much an animal instinct (defence), which is derived from avoiding pain. If, say, you were to not allow your mind to pass a judgement upon someone, to be fair, it’d make you feel very uneasy, very soon, as the suspense of knowing if the person will actually harm you will drive you to positive insanity. Or may not. But who wants to take that chance? I, personally, do believe that doing that is not a wrong thing, as people can be unpredictable, and even genuinely bad to a fault that it’d be quite unwise to just go blindly into a set-up that you know may hurt you.
Since, survivability is the reason why the family system is created (this will be discussed in detail in later posts) we can rest assured that this animal instinct to size up everyone as good or evil is healthy, as far as you’re not positively paranoid, then you need some guidance).